As I'm a bit older than a lot of folks participating in the Hop Against Homophobia, I'm taking a historical look at predjudices in the US's not so distant history.
In 1967, about 72% were opposed to interracial marriage and 48% felt that marrying a person of another race should be prosecuted as a criminal act.Sean Robert Cahill, "Same-sex marriage in the United States: Focus on the facts," Lexington Books, (2004), Page 12.
I'm a student of human nature, and see the pattern of how each generation repeats the mistakes of the one gone before. For some reason, folks feel the need to push down another group to make themselves look better. Anyone remember what N.I.N.A stood for? It meant "No Irish Need Apply." Yes, at one time, the Irish were the group to be discriminated against. Then Italians. I wonder what criticism my Native American great-grandmother endured when she married a "white man." One by one, those prejudices weakened and disappeared. When are we going to stop applying labels to each other? We're people, dammit. 'Nuff said.
Now, I'm not college educated, don't have degrees to brag about, hell -- I live in the trailer park for crying out loud. But I do know that judging a person based on anything other than who they actually are is dumb. Right now shunning someone for being from Ireland seems ridiculous, doesn't it, in this great melting pot of the USA where most folks can claim many nationalities among their ancestors? Yet it happened, and not too terribly long ago.
Now in 2012 my friends can't legally marry. In thirty years, if it takes that long (hopefully not), the current homophobia and prejudice will seem just as absurd a the country's previous biases. Our descendants will feel shame when they see pictures in history books of folks bearing hate-slogan banners. Why not discriminate against blue eyes, or brown hair? Overbites? Freckles? Of course, left handers were once targets of bias, too.
We are each who and how we were meant to be. If you find that special someone who makes your world a better place, regardless of race, religion, gender, or crazy relatives, hang on for dear life. If we all focus on love we won't have time to hate. You don't have to carry signs or scream in anger, just quietly lead by example. One by one we can make a difference by setting a positive example, in our homes, schools, and workplaces. Do not tolerate bigotry or turn a blind eye to injustice.
Visitors to my site, welcome to the Hop Against Homophobia. Below are other participants that I hope you'll visit in support of ending homophobia and predjudice for good. If you look on the right sidebar, you'll see several free reads that I offer; all I ask is that by downloading you're confirming that you're over eighteen. The Telling is a full-length novel; the rest are shorter works. All comments on this post from today until midnight EST May 20 will get your name in the drawing for a print copy of one book of your choice: The Angel of 13th Street, Settling the Score, or Diversion. You can ask for my latest release, Fallen Angel, but you might have to wait a few days until I can get my hands on a copy. Thank you, and let's all be a little kinder to each other, okay? Now why don't you go visit these nice folks, register for prizes, and show your support for ending homophobia.
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That's fascinating, Eden - I didn't know that. Thanks for a great article.ReplyDelete
My husband's gay and Irish... They'd have really hated us back in the N.I.N.A days! Great post, Eden :^)ReplyDelete
Thanks for sharing all the information. I've definitely learned something today. Great post!!ReplyDelete
Thanks, ya'll. Bigotry is a vicious cycle that needs to stop.ReplyDelete
Fantastic post and I love the name of this blog, just really. :)ReplyDelete
Thanks. And the blog name came from when a neighbor shot my house and I found myself on the receiving end of some "you might be a redneck" jokes. But it suits. I'm a very simple-living country girl.ReplyDelete
Good post Eden, I actually write a paper about N.I.N.A and it's fascinating that some people are still denying that and write that it's mythos.ReplyDelete
I hope you are right with your assesment Eden, but truly I'm not sure it will be so, people always find something new to discriminate against and the church is not really helping matters, while it wasn't as much an issue for the other groups you mentioned.
Also I hope with Obama's new stand at least there will be improvement in the equal rights department!
Thanks for stopping by, Emiliana! Some churches are coming around, and I know quite a few Christians that read and write GLBT literature, but you're right. Too many people use the Bible to forward their own agendas.ReplyDelete
1998?!?!? Ack. I have to hope that things improve a bit more quickly for same-sex couples.ReplyDelete
Great post Eden. Thank you so much for sharing. I can remember the first time I heard about interracial marriages being illegal, I was so shocked, especially being predominantly black and always dating someone of a different race. The fact that I'm a black gay man whose marriage to his partner still won't be considered legal unless we go to a certain states is still upsetting to me. Thank you for pointing out that this discrimination against others has been going on for quite some time. Let's hope that we have enough people standing up against homophobia and other discriminations that it won't be an issue for too much longer.ReplyDelete
Nice post Eden. Like Chris I'm shocked by that date. That's why I don't understand referendums on such issues because just because the majority wants something, that doesn't make it right. Governments and lawmakers have to show people what is right, not just do whatever they are told with no regard to whether it's the right thing. Imagine the wacky laws if we just put everything to a vote? Great job and I'm glad your sister is all legal now. :-)ReplyDelete
Great post Eden! I'm happy to see so many blogs participating.ReplyDelete
Wow- 30 years to change Federal law-it just doesn't make sense at times. Let's hope that it doesn't take 30 more years to realize that all people all equal. firstname.lastname@example.orgReplyDelete
What a beautiful post sweetie! I know we're from different states, but I do feel like we come from the same ilk, the same ken and the same type of community! So it's always nice to meet someone or make a friend that is so strongly passionate about letting people live the life they were born to live, especially in the south! xoReplyDelete
Great post Eden, I cannot say I'm shocked by the date(history student) but it's somewhat depressing how long it took. Let's hope that the society progressed and that it wont take as long for gay marriage and equal rights to become reality!ReplyDelete
anzuazura at yahoo dot de
Really good posting. Thanks for being part in this hopReplyDelete
Thank you so much for sharing, Eden! Like you, I believe that we will get to a point where homophobia will be a thing of the past. Unfortunately, we still have some way to go. Equality is something that everyone deserves and no one has the right to pick and choose who receives it. Wonderful post. Thank you.ReplyDelete
I'm in shock over the 1998 thing too!!! Let's hope change comes around a bit more swiftly.ReplyDelete
andreagrendahl AT gmail DOT com
Thank you for the history lesson. I am bad at it and forget where we came from and how far we haven't gotten ;)ReplyDelete
Thank you for also posting the other people in the group! I'm # 243 Wade Kelly
Thanks for the great post,how soon we forget previous struggles.This is a reminder that justice is for all.ReplyDelete
Thanks for stopping by, ya'll!ReplyDelete
I wonder if people realize how much easier life would be if we just all got along.
its' amazing how we as humans will continuously repeat historyReplyDelete
Yeah, we don't seem to learn, do we?ReplyDelete
*applause* As a student of history, my perspective is that yes, we sadly do keep making the same mistakes. But like a pendulum, we swing more and more to the side of equality each time. I have faith that we'll get there eventually. :)ReplyDelete
I think we do learn, just a little slowly - I have hope - if we can keep the dialogue going - and keep it reasonable change can happen. We just have to keep working at it.ReplyDelete
Thank you for a very informative post and thank you for taking part in this hop. One day things will hopefully get better.ReplyDelete
Excellent post. How soon we all forget...ReplyDelete
Amazing. As you said, We're All PeopleReplyDelete
Thanks, ya'll. I read a quote this morning that I think pretty much sums up homophobia: “The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don’t know anything about.” Wayne DyerReplyDelete
Great quote Eden, it really sums it up. Just think what humanity might have achieved if it didn't put so much effort into hate campaigns.ReplyDelete
Thanks for the informative post, I can't believe that law remained until 1998! Hopefully it won't take long for homophobia to be a thing of the past.ReplyDelete
ineedtoread76 [at] gmail.com
Great post Eden, greeting from Czech Republic :-)ReplyDelete
radka.bart (at) gmail.com
Thanks for the post!ReplyDelete
Thanks for bringing up such a valid point. I did a speech recently arguing for gay marriage to be legal and I brought up this point about interracial marriages. Out of my entire class of 25, only one person knew about this. For all those naysayers out there who argue against gay rights and change, I point out the good change brings. If there was no change, we'd still have slaves. Women wouldn't be able to vote, work outside the home, or do anywhere near the things we can do today. Thanks again for sharing.ReplyDelete
Well said Eden!!! Thank you for participating in the hop and I hope, as you, that we'll see this inequality crumble sooner rather than later.ReplyDelete
bellaleone4 at gmail dot com
I showed a bunch of these post to the teens in my family to show them how hurt some "innocent" remarks are to many others. I get so annoyed when my nephew says "you're so gay". ERRRR drove me crazy. I know he didn't mean anything by it but it is so wrong to use that as a saying. I think that these post have helped. Thank you all for sharing with us!ReplyDelete
Thanks, ya'll. Yes, education will defeat intoleration. Raise children to respect others and see different points of view not as wrong, but as an opportunity to learn.ReplyDelete
Eden, wonderful blog and reminder of our history. I can't understand why people don't see how ridiculous they are with their anti-gay rhetoric. I hope it doesn't take 30 more years for people to get smart. Thanks to for including the links to everyone's blogs. I've been trying to catch them all.ReplyDelete
I too hope that in time people will look back at homophobia and know it only as a word in the history books and not something they have to deal with in every day life.ReplyDelete
lmbrownauthor at gmail dot com
Very enlightening post and a great reminder for us all!ReplyDelete
Thanks for taking part in the hop!
I really hope it doesn't take 30 years for people to realize that homophobia is wrong but some humans are slow to learn.ReplyDelete
smurfettev AT gmail DOT com
Interesting post. Thanks for participating in the HOP.ReplyDelete
Thanks for the great post and the giveaway!ReplyDelete
Joyfullyjay at gmail dot com
You're right. In 30-40 years (hopefully sooner!), people will look back and shake their heads over the protesters of same-sex marriage.ReplyDelete
Thanks for the free reads :) I've already read Settling the Score - loved it (and how homophobia was displayed there!).
eripike at gmail dot com
I absolutely agree with you that we need to keep loving and stop hating. It should never matter what gender we are attracted to only that we love and not hate.ReplyDelete
Thank you for the post!
That was a great post, thank you for sharing. I have really enjoyed the hop.ReplyDelete
Thank ya'll all for stopping by and participating in the hop. The winner is Anonymous, with an email of vitajex(at)aol(dot)comReplyDelete
I really hope the hop becomes an annual event.